Stop a Child from Arguing

Understanding 'expression of opinion' and 'arguing' is very tricky. There is a very thin line of difference between the two. A child who knows what he/she wants and knows how to stand up for what they think is attractive; however, there is nothing sweet about a child who picks-up an argument at the drop of a hat, explain a tenured faculty member at one of the reputed schools of Noida. We all have witnessed situations where simple conversations can blow up out of proportions and turn into an argument. This can be draining, negative and disruptive for individuals and unhealthy for a family. So, the question here is how to stop your child from arguing?

Nipping the argument in the bud is not necessarily always a herculean task, says a senior counselor at one of the schools of Noida. The three things that you should strictly follow when dealing with an arguing child, as per observations made by faculty members in one of the popular and top school of Noida:

• Be open and ready to hear them out.
• Be understanding and open to reconsideration about a rule or decision, when you think it could be given a second thought.
• Stick to ‘NO’ when you think is it important.

Let’s find few easy ways to put a stop to this annoying behavior:

1. Set examples and do not argue

Be a role model. They should not experience you arguing at all. Also, make it clear and a rule that arguing will not get things done. Do not give in to their proposals if they express it in an arguing tone. Put across your point that they will never be able to get a negative into a positive if they persist on arguing, recommend many senior faculty members and expert counselors at many top schools of Noida.

2.  Be  affirmative
3. When you really find something annoying and want them to get that done, do not use statements such as ‘can you please put your toys away?’ or ‘can you please put the plate in the sink?’ Make more affirmative statements and be firm .Children need to follow the house rules. Ensure that they understand that it is their duty and not an obligation to behave properly, advise a senior counselor and child psychologist at one of the top schools of Noida.

3. Do not force

Arguments happen most of the time when we expect them to do just as we want. Give your children options for doing chores that they like, ask them to do two tasks from five tasks that are required to be done. For example, ask them if they want to help you set the table for dinner or take the trash out, take the meal for the dog or your kitten or mend their room sheets, etc.

4. Explain

Ensure that they understand that you appreciate them when they put across their point of view, while arguments are about two people constantly trying to one-up each other. So, explain them clearly the difference and tell them it is not appropriate to pick a fight over unnecessary issues, recommends a senior psychologist at one of the popular schools of Noida.

5. Acknowledge

Children learn through rewarding and getting rewards for every good thing that they do can enhance their performance and eagerness to learn manners. Every time they behave politely or make a polite request rather than picking up an argument, appreciate them and reward them.

It is important that your child knows what’s acceptable and how to approach you or elders and make a request for a certain thing that they want and you are not obliged to give in. Educate them how to make a request and that it needs to be made in private and appropriately. Happy Parenting!

The 3 C’s - Ways to Foster Kindness among

 One of the key elements to make a caring and healthy classroom is to encourage students to show kindness and social gratitude towards each other. Faculty in best senior secondary schools in Gurgaon informed upon studying recent readings of global educational research work that students who demonstrate such behavior achieve great academic success, have more friends, and develop a better social relationship and enhanced interpersonal skills.
With the beginning of the new academic session, you may  as a teacher implement new  classroom management tactics that  would make your classroom a warm and safe place to learn, says a principal in one of the top schools in Gurgaon. The “3C’s”-  few research-based tips that you as a teacher may implement in your class to help nurture  kindness among students in  , as recommended by a senior faculty of one of the top schools in Gurgaon:

-         Communicate:

Students are more likely to show kindness and display caring attitude when they feel a sense of belongingness with other students in the class and the teacher. It is observed by senior faculty members in top schools in Gurgaon that students when they are more connected to their teachers and peers, show empathy and give healthy competition to others. Greet them every day as they enter the classroom and instill a sense of belonging. Use a warm, welcoming, and positive tone of voice. Children’s caring and kindness increase when they are a part of a sharing and caring classroom and the most important feature of such as classroom is a smiling teacher. You should model kind and caring speech to have a happy effect on students, slowly they also tend to behave like you with each other, explains a senior teacher at one of the best senior secondary school in Gurgaon.

-         Conditions :

Offering students chance to practice kindness in the class is one of the most effective ways to promote pro-social behavior in students. Give them situations and chances to help each other For example, make them work in a cooperative environment or in groups. Give them tasks that would require interacting and assist each other, and make sure everyone is scored on the basis of group performance and not individual performance, advice senior psychologist in one of the top schools in Gurgaon.

-           Cue

Many researchers explain that even a subtle image of two people looking and interacting with each other, who are from different race and community, develop a sense of belongingness and also encourage kindness among students. Hang posters in classrooms  of people interacting and helping each other . These are visual cues that prove to be very beneficial which make students believe that this is the kind of culture that you expect out of them and slowly they value and maintain this behavior even outside the classroom, explains veteran teachers at one of the best senior secondary school in Gurgaon.


Develop a feeling of belongingness in your classroom to encourage kindness and caring behavior among your students. Try it yourself and find the difference. All the best!

Teach your child to be respectful

Let’s be realistic here, if you ask kids to leave the playpark you are unlikely to get a respectful response from them. So being realistic about the kind of responses you get, most of the time, is essential before you start teaching them to manage their emotions, says a child psychologist at one of the best schools in Delhi. Teaching children to manage their emotions is a long process; however, the process should start early, says a veteran teacher at one of the top schools in Delhi.
One of the ways is to set a good example as your child looks to you (parents and teachers) to imbibe traits. Let us see more tips and ways to teach a child to be respectful:

1.   Be their role model 

One of the best ways is to be a role model for the kids to watch and learn. Behave in the way you would want to be treated. Treat them with respect and listen to them without interruptions and make them believe that you are most interested in listening to them.   Don’t forget to treat others in the most kind and considerate manner. Your child watches and learns from you, recommends a senior faculty and psychologist at one of the best schools in Delhi.

2. The golden words

We all remember the “Golden Words”. Good manners are shown through little gestures and simple words such as ‘sorry’, ‘please’, ‘thank you’, etc.   Set a good example by saying these words to them whenever they do something for you.  Make it a culture  to treat everyone respectfully, says a senior faculty in one of the top schools in Delhi.

3.   Acknowledge

Do not focus on their inaccurate and disrespectful behavior, instead focus on their good manners . Also, do not forget to praise their friends or peers when they behave in a certain way that impresses you, says a senior psychologist at one of the best schools in Delhi. Praising them with phrases such as ‘Good boy!’ or ‘what a nice gesture!’ or ‘Thank you for waiting for your turn…’ in the class by a teacher, is a very interesting and effective way to make them realize that it’s something that your liked and they might imbibe this quality.Never give a big reaction to a disrespectful or bad behavior, otherwise they might indulge in the same the next time they want your attention, says senior psychologist and counselor at a top school in Delhi.  Instead of reacting to them, it is advisable to take your child to a quite place and educate them about the right way and the wrong way that too politely but show your scorn. Educate them with proper verbatim such as, “Dad/Mom, please can you play with me now?”

4. Be realistic 

It is important to keep in mind all the time that it’s natural for your child to test your boundaries sometimes. When you are not prepared or realistic you may feel frustrated. Remember a child can disagree with you, it does not always mean that they are simply being rude. Don’t expect them to be polite and kind all the time; however, its upto you to educate them how to put across their scorn in a positive and well-mannered way.

 Discuss any situation with the child their behavior when you both are in a clear state of mind and calm situation. You also need to acknowledge their feelings first and then only you can teach them the proper way. Be consistent with what you teach them and make sure you remind them every time they forget. All the best!

Are School Projects for Parents? 4 Points to Ponder

With festive and vacation time around the corner, kids have started getting their holiday homework and project assignments. Projects based studies are surely more educational and insightful for students than regular class lessons, as observed by veteran teachers of best schools in Delhi. However, it becomes parents’ job to get it done at the end of the day. Quite often their projects are research-based and involve multiple trips and crafts, as described by one of the science teachers in one of the top CBSE schools in Delhi, which end up being figured out by the parents instead of children.

Sometimes, parents’ feeling of perfection and control result in taking more responsibility for completing these project assignments than the actual nature of these projects. We, of course, do not want our children to think how smart or diligent we as parents are. Do we? Instead, we want them to be smart and develop research skills. The real benefit comes out from making children research on how to approach the project assignments, as explained by PGT in science in one of the best schools in Delhi and NCR. She also emphasized on keeping parents’ involvement minimal. The trick is to know when to assist them, guide them and when to let them be and learn as they do things and make errors, advised many teachers in top CBSE schools in Delhi.

Let us find out where we should take a step back, and delegate duties instead of doing it yourself, as explained by veteran teachers at best schools in Delhi:

• Getting plans ready and initiate execution

As opposed to taking over altogether you can trigger interest in them and show them the right approach to start things. Some of the best teachers in top CBSE Schools in Delhi emphasize on the same. Never expect them to be self-starters, little supervision is pertinent, you can be useful in this front.

• Teach them presentation and organization skills

Children would always require your special attention and organization skills. Explain to them how to aptly present their theme and organize the items properly before they actually begin to work. A step-by-step process could be initiated and taught to them, explained another Principal of the best CBSE School in Delhi.

• Hands-on practice for special children

Each child is unique and requires different levels of support based on their needs, explains tenured special educator in one of the CBSE schools in Delhi. She further explains that parents of autistic children who have ADHD, need to support their kids as they might not able to accomplish a task successfully on their own.

• Supplies can be provided beforehand

Art supplies, maps, glue sticks, scissors, chart papers, thermocol sheets and other such supplies can be given to them after they prepare a list of things that they may require beforehand. You can also take them to the stationary shop or the supply store if needed so that they can choose wisely themselves.

Renne Johnson, a former teacher in one of the best schools in Delhi, advised parents to be cautious while helping kids with homework or other project assignment work. She further explains that teachers usually can easily figure out if a parent has done the project work for the student and by doing so you reduce your child’s credibility and you are stealing your child’s learning time as well. Refrain from taking the charge. Let them take the charge and own their project. All the best!